Pegging – A Guide From A Female Perspective

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Pegging has become a lot more common over recent years and has taken the world of sex by storm! It’s a fantasy I’ve had for a while so my latest purchase of sex toys included a beginners strap-on. All I needed to make the fantasy a reality. Finally I’ve joined the women enjoying the dominant act of penetrator. 
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What is ‘pegging’?

 
Pegging is an act enjoyed by a female-male couple. A woman wears a ‘strap-on’ to anally penetrate the male. A strap-on is a dildo usually positioned inside a harness. There are also strapless strap-ons available which do not involve a harness. More on that later. These aren’t exclusively made for pegging, as they’re also used for female-female intercourse.
 

But why do men like it?

Men can have their prostate stimulated which can lead to very powerful orgasms. The prostate is the gland located about 2″ into their anus which produces semen. Some men find it hard to locate during solo play and pegging gives them an effort free way to enjoy prostate stimulation. It’s also a great way for a man to enjoy a submissive role. If you want to know more from a males perspective then check out this post from one of my favourite bloggers!
 

What about women?

 

  • I don’t know about you but I find anything new to do in the bedroom incredibly exciting! And the act of penetrating is definitely new for most heterosexual women. Of course that’s not the only reason I’m interested. There are a lot of ‘new’ things I wouldn’t want to try.
  • I am a natural submissive. I can try to be dominant but it’s not who I am. Pegging puts me in a dominant role without feeling I’m doing something out of character.
  • It gives me the opportunity to give my partner explosive orgasms that differ from those achieved through vaginal sex. Do I want to make my partner a quivering mess of post orgasmic pleasure? Damn right I do!
  • I am an autoandrophiliac so the idea of a gender switch is particularly arousing for me. However, almost every man and woman can enjoy the switch of roles involved in pegging.
  • Pegging also isn’t solely for the pleasure of the male. You can buy strapless strap-ons which stimulate the females vagina. Some are crafted to stimulate the clitoris at the same time! A strapless strap-on is definitely on my shopping list!

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How to suggest pegging?

 
Whether you’re the male or female of the couple I would start with less extreme anal play. Suggest the use of a finger first and work your way up to being comfortable discussing pegging. Don’t pressure your partner, but don’t be afraid to bring it up again if they dismissed it the first time.
 

Safety & Hygiene

 

  • It goes without saying that you need a good quality anal lubricant. Make sure you buy one that will be suitable for use with your strap-on. For example, silicone lube may damage a silicone toy. Avoid desensitizing lubricants as they can mask pain that you shouldn’t ignore.
  • The rumor mill says that pain during anal penetration is normal and you should just work through it. Yes pain can be normal. No you should not push through it. Take it slow with shallow penetration to start off with. They will be able to take more over time but don’t force it.
  • If the male is new to anal play it’s important to buy a beginners strap-on dildo. I purchased this one which is ideal. If you’d like a different one then aim for a dildo with a circumference around 3-4 inches.
  • Keep things clean by emptying bowels and showering before pegging. You can use an anal douche for extra confidence ( I love this one ) but it’s not necessary.
  • If the male has hemorrhoids you can still attempt pegging. There is a chance it will irritate the hemorrhoids but it’s up to you to decide whether that’s a risk you want to take. In this case it’s especially important to use the safety advice above. The anal douche I mentioned is great for people with hemorrhoids. I have them and find it very comfortable to use. 

 My pegging experience 

For me the major fear in pegging was in the role reversal. Not physically, but mentally. I am and always will be a submissive. Although part of the appeal was the excitement of a new role, it was also the thing that made me nervous. But when I put those fears aside and tried it, I found it wasn’t as dominating an act as I had thought. It was still possible for me to be the pegger and in some respects, the submissive. 
 
The strap-on I purchased fit comfortably with plenty of room for adjustment. The dildo it comes with is very small and definitely more suitable for an anal beginner. If the male has experience with anal toys I would recommend a larger dildo. Fortunately, I’ve got a few of those laying about. The thing I loved most about this harness was the small slot I could hold my We Vibe Tango in. Because you know everything’s better if there’s some clitoral stimulation involved. 
 
Picture the first couple of sessions as being a learning process. Finding the right position for you both will take a fair bit of trial and error. A cowboy position does work well (A gender switch of the cowgirl position.) It also helps to place some cushions under the males hips if you are attempting it with him on his back. 
 
For me, my experience as a pegger has been all that I had hoped it would be. It is something that will take time to master, but I know I’m going to have fun on route. Next stop, strapless strap-on.
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This post was part of a collaboration with the Subsmissives blog. To see what he has to say about pegging from a males perspective you can check out the post here!
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